Where I discovered the term “new normal”

After I finished my Master’s degree during the first half of my chemotherapy, I had a lot of time to think.  I was out of work on short-term disability and spent my days just trying to keep a level head. Chemotherapy had effectively forced me into menopause and polluted my brain. I felt like a crazy person, and my mood swings were enough to give someone whiplash.  I was deteriorating physically and this inevitably led to a decrease in my already lagging positive outlook.

I consider myself a very strong person. I refused to accept the fact that I needed help outside of “my circle”.  After all, I had the best *cheerleaders* in the world: friends, family, co-workers – and sometimes – absolute strangers.  What I failed to see through all of it was that my entire support system was going through my cancer with me.  When I got diagnosed, they too were emotionally diagnosed with cancer.

Honestly, the thought of support groups makes me cringe. For some people, this works – for me, not an option. I absorb energy around me quickly and all I could picture was a circle of broken people, sobbing incessantly about the cards they had been dealt. Plus, I already felt like a burden to my own support system.  I couldn’t fathom the thought of subjecting people I didn’t know – who had problems of their own, some in worse shape – to what I felt.  I knew support groups were off the list, so what else could I do?

I never heard the term “new normal” until I sought individual counseling at the Sari Center.  This was for me. This was something I could do without feeling humility. This was something I could do not only for myself, but for the people around me. The Sari Center is an awesome organization, located off PGA Blvd and I-95 in Palm Beach Gardens, FL. They offer the following low or no-cost services to patients, but also accommodate caregivers:

I am extremely thankful that I made that call to Corinne, the Executive Director at the Sari Center. Why don’t you give her a call today for yourself, or someone you know, that is looking for their “new normal”? The phone number is (561) 578-5900. Shy, uncertain, or stubborn like this military-minded girl? You can visit their website at www.saricenter.org for their calendar of events and more information. They are a nonprofit organization and welcome donations, too.

6 Comments

  1. Lisa Harris

    Thank you for sharing this! A lot of people need to realize their “worth” after a diagnosis that can be paralyzing. I hope people consider this option!

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    1. dana (Post author)

      I would agree and I appreciate the comment!

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  2. Cheryl foster

    Might they know of something similar in the Tamoa/Sarasota area?

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    1. dana (Post author)

      I sent an email to Corrinne to ask her…I will let you know…

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    2. dana (Post author)

      Here you go, Cheryl:

      HI- thanks for asking, there are none that I know of like us in the country! Places like Moffitt have support therapies available to their patients, but I don’t know if they have any on an outpatient basis- worth asking! And if the person is not sure what might help them most, I can do an over the phone assessment with them and send them to find certain therapists that
      might be able to help them….good question! Unfortunately, they’re not everywhere….

      Corinne Lemal Danielson, MPH, CHES
      Sari Center Executive Director
      3401 PGA BLVD #200
      Palm Beach Gardens, FL 33410
      T (561) 578-5900
      F (561) 578-5914
      http://www.saricenter.org

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      1. Cheryl

        Thank you very much!

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